Someone called me something recently that I’ve never been called before……A SPOILED BRAT. Even as a child, I was never referred to in that way because that’s not me. In all my middle-aged glory, let’s just say, I was quite surprised especially since I see this person two times a year at the most. The comment was made over dinner out of the blue at a restaurant during casual conversation and was repeated at least three times. There were other things said about my work as a consultant as well, but I won’t get into it here.My view of a grown person who is a spoiled brat is someone who is demanding, self-centered, inconsiderate and unreasonable. None of those words fit me. I’m a wife, mom, sister, friend, business owner, and consultant, who prides herself in being kind, dependable and encouraging. For those who know me, I’m a giver by nature.
This comment was made solely based on my lifestyle. Clearly this person overlooked one thing….our work ethic. My husband and I work in the fields of education and engineering, in addition to our real estate business. Our ambition and drive have afforded us many blessings which we don’t take for granted. We’ve used our good fortune to help others when we can.
I have to admit that comment messed with my head a bit (or I would not be writing about it) but I know myself. I did pause to do some self-reflection and talked to some of the people closest to me and determined the comment was not based on anything I need to be stressed over or concerned about. I put this interaction in my mental repertoire of experiences that help me to be a better, stronger person.
There is always a lesson in an experience for me. So this is what I took away….
- You have to let some things roll off your back. Let it roll and keep it moving especially if it is a random comment intended to make you feel bad in some way. The key word here is intention.
- Don’t allow other people to define you. Know yourself and who you are flaws included. People will rattle you from time to time, but you cannot give power to people’s words who are not looking to grow or encourage you in some way.
- Don’t internalize someone else’s perception. You can’t control what other people think. Sometimes people think they know you but they don’t and their perceptions are not necessarily truth. We are all entitled to our opinions. You’ll know if they are interested in getting to know the real you.
- Don’t apologize for your success. Some people don’t see your hustle. Our experiences good or bad mold us into who we are today. Don’t forget that we all have a story.
Peace and Blessings,