Family meetings are a great way to keep the lines of communication open. They allow us to share important information or to just check in with one another. Honestly, there was a time when family meetings meant you were in trouble for something but not so much anymore. Now, that the kids are growing up, they serve a different purpose.
Families today are so busy with work, school, extracurricular activities and life in general, it’s rare that we are all home at the same time. As the days fly by, we have to be more intentional with our communication especially as our kids get older.
We have two teens and two tweens in our household with their own thoughts, opinions and ideas. These years are an important part of their development. For that reason, it’s important that we stay connected. Rounding them up for a brief talk from time to time can make a difference.
Family meetings serve a variety of purposes. They are used to:
Share important information
Sometimes there is so much going on its tough to keep up. The meeting can be used to share information about schedules, vacation, appointments or upcoming events. We need to be on the same page and it prevents us from having to repeat ourselves. My kids like to know what to expect, so it helps from that perspective too.
Check in with one another.
This is a great opportunity to share whatever you wish. Perhaps something exciting happened at school or work. Encourage your kids to share the best part of their day or the least favorite part of their day.
This is an effective way to communicate when improvements need to be made. For example, people are not keeping up with their assigned chores. Other reasons for redirection could be the tone of the household which may include bickering and complaining. With teens and tweens in the household, it’s bound to happen. Too much of that and mom just might run away from home. My daughter has asked that the lectures be kept to a one minute minimum. The nerve! I have made the adjustments to maintain the flow of the meeting.
Just Be Together
Sometimes it’s just good to be together even if it’s just for a few minutes. Keep in mind that family meetings should never take the place of spending quality time together as a family.
One on one time is also important. As parents, it’s important that we make an effort to spend time with each kid separately. Now that school is in full swing, I try to do this regularly. It can be something as simple as going for a walk or an ice cream.
One thing is for sure, there is a lot going on out there in the world everyday for both adults and kids. It’s important that we take the time to do more than text, or email. Nothing beats good old face to face interaction when you make the time.
How do you keep the lines of communication open in your family?
Peace and Blessings,