I am feeling really full after spending Thanksgiving with family in Philadelphia. I did my share of eating but I’m full of love and gratitude. When you live far from your family, every now and then it’s good to get a fix. We talked late into the night, ate together, and traveled from house to house. It was great.
My sister-in-law and I both enjoy meaningful conversation and spend a lot of time talking. We share our thoughts and feelings on motherhood, parenting, marriage, career and a bunch of other topics. We both have doctorate degrees, mine in Counselor Education and hers in Developmental Psychology. So it’s not surprising that we have some common interests.
I’m in the process of exploring career options and needed some guidance. She was kind enough to arrange a breakfast meeting for the two of us with her father, Dr. Thomas Gordon, who is a nationally known Consultant and Psychologist. He is the owner of TAGA Consulting. I’ve met him many times before, but this time we met in a mentoring capacity. We’ll connect on an ongoing basis from here on out and I’m looking forward to it. This is a great example of tapping into ones resources.
I don’t talk about it much on the blog but I’m also a Consultant. I’m a newbie and still learning as I go. I have a year-long contract with a local school district. My work with them mainly focuses on diversity and recruitment. Diversity work is both rewarding and challenging. Other personal areas of interest and expertise include career development, diversity and inclusion, program development, mentoring and community outreach.
I am a lifelong learner. My desire to continuously learn and grow makes it easy for me to take advantage of opportunities to hear from others who have expertise. We all need a boost from time to time.
He’s been in the consulting business for 40 years and his work is highly regarded. It started by word of mouth and the rest is history. It’s true for him that his reputation preceded him in a positive way and helped to build his business. Our connection is a win-win relationship because he enjoys mentoring and I value his expertise.
He encouraged me to embrace three key points as I do this work.
- Listen to my spirit. Trust and believe in yourself. Focus on mission over money. Integrity is essential in any business. Unfortunately, not all business associates have high standards when it comes to integrity.
- Build allies. Cultivate relationships with the leadership and other key people in the work environment. This is essential because culture trumps strategy.
- Focus on the process not the product. Build allies and operate from a place of integrity. Then strategically provide the product. In some cases, the focus needs to be on delivering the product which will depend on the desired outcomes. For example, if your outcome is to write a book, then write the book. It’s pretty cut and dry. In cases where the focus is changing the culture, there is a process that needs to be followed in order to impact change. Nonetheless, it needs to be done the right way.
We talked about so much more but I thought these key points were important to share. He encouraged me to cherish my integrity, smarts, stamina and commitment to advance both my personal and collective empowerment.
After our meeting, I felt energized and liberated. My mind has been racing with thoughts and ideas since we met and I’m excited. He told me to, “give what I was delivered to earth to bring” and I’m bringing it. It may take a while but I’m bringing it.
Do you have a mentor, how has it helped you with your mission?
Peace and Blessings,