I hope that you all are feeling the spirit this holiday season. Christmas is such a wonderful time of year because it helps us to refocus. We get so caught up in the day-to-day hustle of life, that we do not take time to evaluate where we are and where we hope to be. I’m not talking about a New Years resolution, but a plan or vision for your life. We all have proclaimed at least one New Years resolution in our life time but often times it falls by the waste side. In many cases, it just ends up being a verbal announcement with little execution or follow through. At least, that’s been my experience for many years.
About six years ago, my husband and I began to create a yearly family plan. Unfortunately, I can’t take credit for this idea. It was my husbands. He is always striving to be better and do better. I can’t complain when he wants that for our family as well. One of the things that he always says is, focus on what you do want to happen, not what you don’t want to happen. Lead with that. He’s a keeper.
My husband, children and I have traveled over Christmas vacation for the past ten years. While on vacation we spend an hour or so, revisiting our family plan for the current year. I know you are probably thinking that does not sound like fun vacation time. Well, it really only takes up a small amount of our time. The majority of our time is spent on fun. The plan includes our strengths, opportunity areas, and personal goals for each individual. We focus on one person, and we go through the three areas. We allow the individual to give their own personal assessment of themselves first then we move on to each individual family member. We address some of the following questions in our discussion.
Did we make the necessary adjustments that year?
Did we accomplish our goals for that year?
What went really well this year?
What can we do better as a family and as individuals?
We each have an opportunity to give feedback on one another’s strengths, and opportunity areas. We also talk about our goals and whether we accomplished what we set out to do. Next, we help each other create new goals or refine the old goals. After each family member has addressed their own individual plans, we discuss our collective family plan. I am the note taker, so all of this is on paper. I type it up each year and provide a hard copy for the family.
Here’s an example: My kids said, “when we do something wrong or that you do not like you go on and on and on and on. We would prefer if you just said it once and moved on.” Oh really now?? You know I want to say something right. So I am fighting with myself internally to just accept the feedback. So I accept it and move on. I’ll deal with them later. All in all this is a great exercise in healthy communication.
Creating a family plan is a great holiday tradition for our family. It helps us to stay on track, reflect and reevaluate our lives. By doing this, it also helps us to stay grounded so that we are making positive contributions to the world. That we are looking outside of ourselves and doing our part. The beauty of Christmas is that it encourages love, sharing and giving. It is important that we never forget that we lead a blessed life in many ways not just through material possessions. So what’s your plan?
I am truly humbled by the birth of baby Jesus.
And whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, as to the Lord and not unto men.
Peace and Blessings,