More and more African American women are replacing relaxers with twist outs and braids in celebration of their natural hair. My two daughter’s ages 14 and 11 have been natural for a while now. They did have relaxers briefly, but they did not agree with my older daughter’s hair. I was never a fan of relaxers for them, but I gave in. I encouraged and supported my oldest daughter through the transition a few years back. It was a great decision and they have committed to sustaining natural hair all on their own.
My oldest daughter is the chemist and stylist in the family. She creates all types of natural holistic conditioning treatments that include fresh fruit and other ingredients. She does my hair for me regularly as a way to show love and support. I have to admit, I’m loving it.
I realize that not everyone is a fan of natural hair. I was not a fan initially because it seemed like the only alternative was to cut all of your hair off. I’ve learned that there are other options. It was a gradual process for my girls requiring a monthly trim. I am proud of my girls, and want them to love the skin they are in.
One of my daughter’s male classmates called her hair ratchet. Can you believe that? The nerve! What’s with the overuse of the word ratchet especially among teens? She chose to walk away. She thought about it for a second and decided that in the grand scheme of life, what he thought didn’t matter to her. That’s my girl! We did spend some time discussing all of the things we could have said if what he said mattered. It made us feel better. She’ll be ready to educate him if there is a next time and she chooses to do so.
Stay tuned for a tutorial highlighting one of my daughter’s homemade conditioning treatments in a future post. Until then, check out some of her styles all done on her own.
I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Psalm 139:14
Peace and Blessings,