Back when I was a graduate student at Penn State University in the 90s, I could be described as ambitious, independent, secretly insecure, athletic and hard-working. I was a full-time student studying Counselor Education with a focus in Higher Education Administration and a minor in Human Resource Development while I worked as a Graduate Assistant in Career Services on campus, a Sales Associate at Lady Footlocker, and babysat regularly for a family.
Many of my friends were married with children at that time but I decided to move to PA for school. I secretly wished that I could trade places with them. I wanted to be married with children. In the meantime, I was busting out As and enjoying my experience as a student. I was there to further develop myself, and ultimately advance in my chosen field. I wasn’t there to find a life partner but it happened.
I was in graduate school for five years of my adult life from ages 25-30. During that time I received a masters and a doctorate degree. I was introduced to my husband by my brother my first year of graduate school. My future husband was finishing up his degree in Engineering. He was my brother’s friend, barber and fraternity brother.
It all started when my brother convinced me to tag along with him for a haircut and the rest is history. We dated for 5 years, 4 of those years were long distance. Distance can be tough on a relationship but we made it through. I always say my brother hand-picked my husband because I wasn’t doing such a great job on my own. Let’s just say, I went through a frog or two.
Life has shown me that things do not always workout according to our plan. I’m glad that I waited and exercised patience to ensure that this love was meant to be. It was. I describe myself as a late bloomer and I’m okay with that. We’ve had our share of ups and downs over the years but clearly our union was definitely a part of God’s plan.
I was married on May 3 and graduated with my doctorate on May 17. I accomplished two huge milestones in the same month. Two years later, I had our first child at age 32. We’ve been married 18 years now and I have a great life partner and four beautiful kids.
I’d be lying if I said it has all been perfect and wonderful but it honestly has been good. We are committed. Through all of my experiences, I’m grateful to have lived, loved, and learned and look forward to many more years to come with my crew.
I hope that you have a fantastic holiday filled with love, peace and joy.
Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays!
Peace and Blessings,