Preparing for college is an exciting time in a young persons life. It was for me.
My 10th grade daughter, 11th grade nephew (the teens) and I attended a program sponsored by their high school called Future Options Night. Students heard from professionals who were sharing their expertise in a variety of areas. Some of the topics included Financial Aid, Transitioning from Junior To Senior Year, Career Choices and Naviance (a self-guided internet site for career and college exploration), the Military and Apprenticeship Programs.
My husband and I received the email announcing the program and both agreed that it would be beneficial for the two teens to attend. I was looking forward to the program. It’s one of my interest areas. I taught a Career Counseling graduate course for several years and worked as an Assistant Director for Career Services at a University.
I was hoping that the teens would share my enthusiasm as they begin to prepare for the next phase of their life.
Nope I was wrong.
The 11th grader did not want to go at all and once we got there looked bored out of his mind the entire time. The 10th grader wanted to leave after the first session. During the session, the 10th grader was making comments about the fact that she was missing her work out time at the gym. Prior to that, I had to give her the side eye to put her phone away. You know how they are always playing games or whatever it is they do. I explained that working out is great but there needs to be a balance among the things that are important. I couldn’t fuss at her too much because she is a straight A Honor student. My nephew is also a good student but needs to apply himself more. I believe they both have bright futures.
As I was walking out, a friend who also attended the same presentation was outdone with her son. At the beginning of the presentation, the guidance counselor introduced herself and announced that she works with students with the last name A-C. My friend then asked her son the counselor’s name because their last name begins with a “B”and he said “I don’t know that woman”. This meant that he obviously has not been to see her and he’s a junior. My friend said, I told him when he turns 18 he’s got to go somewhere. He can’t live with us forever! I was crackin up. He’s also a good student and I’m sure he’ll go off to college.
I guess parents just don’t understand.
They are a bit too nonchalant for me but this experience is not about me. Repeat…..this experience is not about me. I’m just going to love them through it.
I just find the college search and career/major exploration process very engaging. Hopefully they will get excited as the time draws closer. They still have time to sort things out. Although, the 11th grader really needs to get the ball rolling.
I can’t complain too much as long as they are handling their business in school. I will continue to take them to programs and workshops that will benefit them whether they like it or not. It’s not optional. They’ll thank me someday.
Have any of you experienced this?
Peace and Blessings,