Recently, with the beginning of the new year there has been so much talk about finding your purpose and goal setting. I think it’s great on many levels and I am in support of those striving to find their calling. We all should have some vision or plan for our lives. Many people create vision boards and even write down their goals. We do that as a family. In fact, I wrote a post on our family plan process that we review every year.
There seems to be some unspoken pressure to discover your purpose and reason for being as we all try to create meaning in our lives. I’ve struggled with this a bit especially with the relocations that I’ve experienced. The moving has thrown me off course at times. Each time I feel like I’m reinventing myself and have not always enjoyed that process. Then I later discovered that I actually like moving. Starting all over again in a new place is an opportunity for a fresh start. With each move, I’ve discovered many sides of myself and have continued to grow and evolve. I don’t mind change but it’s not for everyone.
Sometimes we spend so much time searching for that purpose but it’s right there in front of us all along. We as humans tend to minimize our contributions, at least I do at times. We are waiting for the sky to open up and a loud boisterous voice from the heavens above to tells us what our purpose is in life. I’m not so sure that’s going to happen but you may find your answers in other ways. It’s never that easy. I believe we should do what we love and what comes natural to us. Somewhere in the mix is your purpose.
At one time I had this idea that whatever my purpose is it’s supposed to be BIG or life changing. So instead of being a Program Director for a Reading Program, I am supposed to be the founder and creator of a best-selling reading curriculum that has become widely used in 20 different countries (in 20 different languages) and has made a huge impact in the world. There is nothing wrong with setting lofty goals, but that’s A LOT of pressure especially with all of my other responsibilities.
Then I realized, I am ENOUGH and what I’m doing is ENOUGH. I refuse to walk around feeling unfulfilled every day. I have developed a skill where I intentionally match my negative thoughts with positive ones. This is what I came up with. I’ve impacted the lives of 210 kindergarten and first grade students enrolled in our reading program over the past two years. I’ve had the pleasure of recruiting and meeting 250 volunteers this year alone who read with our students. I am raising three compassionate kids who are great students, athletes and all around good kids. I’m married to a man who is hardworking, positive, encouraging, loves to travel and is a great father to our children. I’m also a small business owner. Lastly, I spent the last three and a half months with my mother before her passing caring for her and loving on her. We’ve all had peaks and valleys but those experiences have made us who we are today while contributing to our purpose.
I may not be a famous actor, singer, entrepreneur or author but I’ve made some valuable contributions to my circle of influence. It took me a while but I’ve come to a place where I’m okay with that. It’s good enough for me. I have to admit there are times when I have momentary waves of fear, where I feel like I’m running out of time (I’m in my 40s) and there’s still so much I want to do. I’ve learned to focus on my circle of influence while enjoying the process along the way. If my endeavors grow and impact others on a large scale that is fabulous.
My purpose is to inspire others, and to LOVE, CARE, and LIVE. I may not be a world leader or a household name now but I’ve made a difference. It doesn’t get much simpler than that. I encourage you to think about all of the contributions you have made. I’m sure you’ll uncover your purpose in due time. It may not be packaged nice and neat in a little box with a bow, but I bet it’s there.
Have a Blessed Day!
Peace and Blessings,