We encourage our kids to be active by participating in sports throughout the school year. My eleven year old daughter has grown by leaps and bounds in the past year to the tune of 5′ 8″ and 112 pounds. I know, she’s pretty tall. She’s three inches taller than me and still growing. At this point, she has not embraced being tall and all the benefits. In fact, she doesn’t like it much. Being tall for boys is more desirable and acceptable.
She has played basketball for the past three years. Her Dad has encouraged her to play basketball in two leagues this winter. One is a little more competitive than the other. He coaches one of her teams and helps out with the other. He’s present at all of her practices, and I’m there for her games cheering her on. We both believe that participating in a sport that capitalizes on her height is a great self-esteem booster. I think she is finally coming into her own. As I was surfing the internet for recommendations on ways to encourage her, I came across this website http://m.wikihow.com/Accept-Being-a-Tall-Girl. I modified and added some of my own thoughts to ways to accept being a tall girl. I shared this with her and she was very receptive.
1. Do not slouch. It causes back problems, and can make you appear insecure.
2. Learn to be positive about your height. Replace negative thoughts and complaints with positive thoughts. For every complaint think of some positive benefits such as tall girls have a better chance of being successful at sports, modeling and leadership roles. My sister has already asked if she could be my daughter’s modeling agent.
3. Wear clothes that fit. You don’t want your clothes to look too small regardless of how cute they are. We shop a lot, since we have no choice. High water pants are not cool in the sixth grade.
4. Try activities that take advantage of being tall. Basketball and volleyball are sports that enable tall girls to take advantage of their height. Being good at something helps to build confidence. So building strength and practicing is important. My daughter does 35 push ups every night. Blocking shots, rebounding and being strong are all important factors in basketball.
5. Smile. Allow your personality to shine. Be happy with the skin you’re in. If others comment on your height, take it as a compliment, say thank you and keep it moving.
6. Being tall is being graceful. Tall girls are feminine, and girly too.
7. Don’t compare your weight to other girls who are shorter. Tall girls are expected to weigh more. For every inch, girls are expected to gain 5 pounds.
8. Being tall makes you unique. God made you tall for a reason. Embrace it!
What other ways would you encourage a girl who is tall and still growing?
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