For the past nine days we’ve had my three-year old great-niece who is affectionately known as “D” in our household. She is visiting us for a couple of weeks from Alabama. She has been a lot of fun. Her mother used to visit me for a few weeks in the summer before I had my own children. So we have continued the tradition by having her daughter visit with us.
My daughters ages 15, and 12 have taken great care of her. Their help has been a blessing especially since we’re still working on getting settled in our new home.
We’ve really enjoyed having her. She’s definitely a mama’s girl. She strategically quotes her mom throughout the day telling us “my mama says I can have some cookies”. Her mom really does have a lot to say for someone who is back in Alabama. LOL!
It’s amazing how personalities develop at such a young age. We’ve learned a lot from “Miss D”. She has taught us…..
1. It’s good to be heard and seen depending on the situation. There are six of us in the household including my visiting nephew. Sometimes we get immersed in conversation and we may not hear her. She insists that she be heard by saying, “listen to me!”, or she comes right up to you to have a conversation. I like that quality. Of course, she needs to learn that there will be times when that behavior is not okay.
2. Don’t be shy about asking for what you want. She has no problem asking for what she wants. She speaks very well for her age but now and then she may say something that is difficult to understand. One thing for sure though when she wants something she is very clear. She can ask but it does not mean she will always receive. The fact that she is not shy about it, is a good thing.
3. New behavior can be taught and learned. As an only child to a young single mom, she is accustomed to getting what she wants at home. She can be sort of demanding by not asking for things politely. When she first arrived, she rarely said please, and would just blurt out, “give me some juice”. Of course, I’m looking around wondering who in the world she could be talking to like that, certainly not me. Let’s just say she quickly learned that to get her needs met, she would have to ask for things respectfully and politely. In just over a week, she is learning to say, “may I please have some juice”. We emphasize that she has to say it right the first time and she is doing it. It’s been great for my daughter’s to see how important it is to model good behavior and how children at a young age can pick things up so quickly.
She is going to be a force to be reckoned with provided all of her qualities are properly channeled and developed.
Our time with D is coming to a close. We are sad to see her go. We hope that she will remember the things we taught her. We are already looking forward to her next visit.
What lessons have you learned from a child?
Peace and Blessings,