Words cannot express the whirlwind my life has been over the last two months. Seriously, I can’t put it into words. I’ve been taking it all in stride going from one thing to the next. I’m checking things off of my list, but it keeps growing. Do you have that experience? I guess it’s just called life.
We relocated from Missouri to Ohio, went on vacation, hosted family in our new home, added my 16-year-old nephew to our family, tore my meniscus (upcoming knee surgery) and added 5 new properties to our real estate business. That doesn’t include all of the adjustments associated with helping four kids to get acclimated to their new environment socially and academically.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m not complaining because we have been blessed beyond measure but some days I have difficulty centering myself. I feel like everyday when I wake up I’m getting ready to run a race. I’m just waiting for the signal to go off to begin the race. As a result, I’m operating in a state of anxiety all day. So instead of being pleasant when the kids get home, I’m snapping off about homework, chores, and whatever else is on the agenda for that day.
I also have days when I still feel the sadness of losing my mom back in November. Boy do I miss her. It’s hard to read all of that from me on the outside, but I feel it on the inside.
I’ve wanted to write about this for a while but did not know where to begin. In fact, I think I have written about this before. It doesn’t matter because writing is therapeutic for me.
It all boils down to the fact that we are all human. We are unique individuals with different coping mechanisms. We have struggles, and some days are better than others.
As moms, we spend so much time worrying about and caring for everyone else that we allow ourselves to get lost in the shuffle. It dawned on me recently that I’m adjusting too. Moving is a big adjustment for ALL OF US including me.
As a way to encourage myself, I’ve come up with a few tips.
1. Slow down! You can’t operate at a high level of anxiety all day. It’s not healthy for you. Pray, meditate…
2. Begin your day with quick encouraging inspirational, biblical or spiritual readings. It’s time to get back to that.
3. Continue to create lists. Prioritize! Work on the most urgent items first and continue with your list the next day.
4. Carve out time for socialization with friends. A lunch date with good company can lift your spirits.
5. Treat yourself to a Chai Tea Latte with soy milk from Starbucks if you want to! It’s okay.
6. Days off are allowed. Some days you don’t have to be superwoman. Give yourself a break now and then.
7. Continue to express gratitude for all of your blessings, and never lose sight of the fact that life can change in an instant.
8. Attitude is everything, pick a good one.
So there you have it counsel for the counselor. I am a National Certified Counselor, and believe it or not we all have days when we need to vent.
Do you have any words of encouragement ? How do you cope when life gets hectic?
Peace and Blessings,