I can’t tell you how many times I started to write this post. It’s been a struggle. My mother went home to be with the Lord on November 20, 2013. I thought maybe I should write about something else today but how could I? The sadness is still fresh in my spirit. I mentioned in an earlier post that I brought her to my home to stay with my family while she underwent treatment for lung cancer. As I reflect, I am reminded of what a blessing it was to have spent the past three and a half months with her. My children and husband spent time with her and encouraged her just as I did. It was a beautiful thing. It was a great lesson for the kids, because it taught them about service, and unconditional love. We did any and everything to make her feel loved and comfortable. No regrets. We miss her dearly but we know that she is resting well in heaven. I know there were many family members waiting to greet her. I’m sure it was quite the event.
Even though I am a middle-aged woman, the fact that both of my earthly parents are no longer here is sort of unsettling. My father passed away in 2009. Losing my parents never really crossed my mind. You know it’s going to happen one day but one can never be too emotionally prepared. I just didn’t think about my parents departing this life. I certainly have many family members who would gladly fill that role for me. My mother not being here just seems surreal. So instead of focusing on the loss that I feel, I want to share 13 things that I love about my mother in no particular order. It’s hard to use the past tense because these are things that I will always love about her.
- She reconnected with the Lord and found a church home that she loved.
- She loved unconditionally despite the challenging circumstances she faced.
- She was a caregiver by nature and loved children. She raised several children that were not hers biologically.
- She always tried to provide encouragement to those around her.
- She had a great sense of humor and was very witty.
- She was very independent.
- She trusted me enough to confide in me.
- She did not like drama at all.
- She allowed herself to be vulnerable so that we could love and care for her these past few months.
- She told me that she appreciated what we were doing for her before she departed this life. I would often ask her if I was doing what she needed me to do.
- She believed in helping people especially in their time of need.
- She did not hold back when she had something to say.
- She let me watch Housewives of Atlanta in her room with her the night before she passed. I really don’t watch that show much, but it intrigued my interest as we were flipping through the channels. It turns out there was a marathon on with back to back episodes. So half way through the second episode she politely said, “how much longer do I have to watch this?” I chuckled. Clearly she was not a fan. She never held back. Those were our last moments together and our last conversation before I decided to wish her a good night at about 11:00pm.
I accept that my mother is no longer with me on this earth. She will be in my heart forever. I find peace in knowing that I did everything that I could to make her last days drama free. She was at peace here in my home and we loved having her here. Mom was one of a kind and will be missed dearly.
The earth is the Lord’s, and everything in it. The world and all its people belong to him. Psalm 24:1
Enjoy the holidays with your loved ones.
Peace and Blessings,