The New Year is almost here. I’m excited about all of the possibilities and very grateful for another year to thrive. On a smaller scale, I’m just grateful for another DAY. I take each day as it comes.
I begin each day with a spirit of thanks and appreciation. Somehow, over the course of the day things go North or South whichever you prefer. In other words, stuff happens or you encounter certain people who mess up your vibe. So how do I stay on track and not allow outside influences to throw me off course? I struggle with this a lot. I am not expecting a perfect day because I am a human being with a family and life just happens. Some things are expected, others unexpected.
Recently, I’ve encountered several situations and people who have attempted to steal my joy. Now I am not talking about my kids throwing a tantrum or anything like that. That’s normal stuff (at least I think so). I’m talking about bigger issues without going into too much detail.
The question becomes, how do I protect my joy? I don’t want to walk around salty and miserable. I refuse to fall prey to the “joy snatchers”.
First, I pray. I pray for peace, understanding, good communication, responsibility, love, and honesty for all involved. After I do that, I leave it there. This is very difficult for me since I have a counseling background. My natural instinct is to psychoanalyze EVERYTHING. I am learning to leave it there.
Next, I complete a “me” assessment. I am a caring and sensitive person so I always make an assessment of the situation and my part in it. Is there something that I could have done differently? I have a few trusted confidants that I will consult with (my husband is one) to make sure that I am not suffering from tunnel vision. I am open to making any adjustments if necessary. Of course this is all subjective but at least my head is in the right place.
Third, I recognize that my joy is mine (at the risk of sounding like a two-year old). I am responsible for it and no one else. This does not mean I will never be hurt by someone elses comments or actions. It means that our reaction to circumstances determines how we cope. I know we’ve all heard it before. So how do we determine our reactions when we are in the moment? My solution has been POSITIVE INNER SELF TALK. I know it sounds odd but it works for me. It’s easy to come up with negative thoughts. For every negative thought, come up with a positive thought to replace it. Try it. It just might work for you.
The fourth strategy is to screen your calls and other modes of communication. Engage when you are ready. I do realize sometimes this is not always possible but I recommend it when you can. Have you ever looked at your phone and thought I can’t deal with this person right now? Exactly. So don’t answer at that moment.
We are all works in progress. The blessing is that we have yet another year to work towards becoming our best selves. I think we’ll always be works in progress regardless of how much education, money or success we have. That’s the beauty of life, we are always evolving. I don’t know that any of us will ever be a finished product but we can certainly be better than we were last year or even last month. Speaking for myself, I hope to never become a finished product. I wouldn’t mind being viewed as a seasoned veteran but I enjoy adding new information and experiences to my repertoire.
There will be no joy snatching going on here today. Blessings to you all!
Have a “Joyful” New Year with your Friends and Family.
Peace and Blessings,